Have You Reached Your Upper Limit on Success?

Your next opportunity to be fired up!How Often Do You Unknowingly Sabotage Yourself with An Upper Limit?

All of us have internal upper limits -comfort zones built in from our childhood programming or life experiences that put a certain limit on how much joy, love, and success we have.  And when we expand beyond our comfort zones and begin to experience more, what often happens is that we sabotage ourselves.  We get sick, we make mistakes, we miss critical appointments. And then we miss that wonderful opportunity to go to the next level.  In his book, The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks addresses this very issue with great clarity.

Why Do We Sabotage Ourselves and Put An Upper Limit on Love and Success?

According to Hendricks, there are four main barriers which show up in our upper limits.  These are usually subconscious belief systems or things we say to ourselves that kick up when we are moving upward and growing with our talents and gifts.

  1. Feeling Fundamentally Flawed or Bad
  2. I Might End Up Alone or Be Disloyal to My Family
  3. Success and Abundance Might Be a Bigger Burden
  4. I Might Outshine________( often a sibling or spouse

So we sabotage our success with worry, criticism, blame, deflecting, arguing, getting sick or injured,lying, etc.  All of these make us feel upset or bad about ourselves and quick burst the bubble of expansion and excitement.

The good news is you can learn to stop those destructive behaviors, expand beyond your upper limits and start embracing more love, abundance, success and happiness. I highly recommend you read the book and step into a greater vision of what your life can be.   Hendricks talks about living in your Zone of Genius, and allow yourself to feel good all the time and have everything go smoothly in your life all the time.  It is possible.  Each of us has an incredible reservoir of wisdom, talent and resilience, which enable us to do much more than we think we can.

One thing you can do right now is observe yourself.  Let's say you catch yourself worrying.

•  As soon as you notice it, focus on something pleasant, like a scene in nature or something you feel good about.

•  Wonder to yourself, "What positive new thing is trying to come to me now?"

• Allow yourself to feel good, expansive and open.

• Then let it all go and some time later, a  new positive idea will present itself.

So much of our success requires mindfulness.  The more we pay attention to our thoughts, the more we can create greater love, success, joy and abundance.

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Are Your Emails Alienating People?

Do Your Emails Come Across as Rude?

Apparently, how you start and end your emails makes a big difference.  You may think that sending a quick, curt response without saying Hello or Thank You is the best way to work.  But that's not true.

Data scientists at Boomerang reviewed some 350,000 emails and found that tone in emails has a big impact on whether the recipient responds.

Here are the takeaways on sending emails:

Start with a friendly, informal tone, and always say "Hello, Hey or Hi."  They get a 15% greater response rate than "Dear." Surprisingly, "Hey" is the most effective!

End your emails with some kind of gratitude, like thanks, thank you, or In appreciation.  Using "Best" is the worst way to end an email (Woops- I've been guilty of this.)

Be very careful with CC's and group emails.  Nothing irritates people more than seeing everyone's trivial response to a non-essential email.

Try not to be too brief.  Always include something warm and friendly.  Something like, "Hi Bill, I understand. Thanks," is more effective than "Got it" which may come across as sarcastic, according to Travis Bradberry.

Avoid using Urgent or ASAP unless you've called them and not been able to reach them. Instead of using those words, say why it is urgent in your subject line: Ex: "Critical deadline for ad is at noon.  Please respond ASAP."

Never use email to berate someone in an email.  If you file a customer complaint, be specific and accurate.  Use positive language and suggest alternatives that will assist, not condemn them other person. "It would have been helpful if..."  "A good customer service agent does..."  If you are correcting am employee, talk to them in person.

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Could a Cold Shower Prevent Depression?

cold showersCold Showers Have Amazing Benefits

Cold showers and ice baths?  How could those help me?  About a month ago, I attended a 5 day workshop with one of the world's leading personal development coaches and speakers, Brendon Burchard.  He coaches Oprah and her team.

In sharing various techniques for maintaining energy and vitality, he explained how he took ice baths every night during the training, to reduce his inflammation and revitalize.  He said it made him feel twenty years younger.

Anthony Robbins plunges in a 57 degree pool for one minute every morning.
Famous athletes and performers like Lebron James and Usher use the same technique after events.

A bit horrified and intrigued, I decided to investigate.  I must say, I've been taking cold showers for a month and they really make a difference.  There's no question that you have to get used to them, and some days, all I want is a hot shower.  But even then, I finish with the bracing cold to get my energy up.  It works. . It takes a while, but it works.  Here's why:

How Cold Showers and Ice Baths Heal Your Body

1. They reduce inflammation.  Most all of us have it, believe it or not.  Pain, soreness, tense muscles, illness- all of that usually has inflammation associated with it.  Just like you put ice on a swollen ankle, cold water and ice baths lower inflammation levels significantly.

2. They get your circulation going, really.  Ask anyone who's done the Polar Bear dip in the middle of winter into freezing water.  Cold showers and ice baths boost circulation and reboot your system.  They help you be clearer and more alert.

3. They clear out lactic acid and toxins in your body, according to Dr. Ben Kim.  LeBron James says his legs feel much better and fresher the day after.

4. And yes- they do relive symptoms of depression. Cryotherapy releases endorphins, the feel good hormones, and creates an analgesic effect.

Check with your doctor before you start a cold water  shower or ice bath regimen.  Im still not ready for an ice bath, but I do derive great value from my cold showers.  Try it yourself.  You may well find that it becomes one of the most valuable tools to start your day.

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How to Have Greater Influence

"We're not who we say we are, we're not who we want to be.  We are the sum of the influence and impact that we have in our lives on others." Carl Sagan
How to have greater influenceWhen I was in second grade, I made it to the finals of the school poetry contest.  And I lost. I was devastated, but what got me through were kind words of encouragement from my second grade teacher, Mrs. Monroe.  She believed in me. Seven years later, when I received the Headmasters Award at that same school, she hugged me and said, "I always knew you were special."  Mrs. Monroe had enormous influence in my life and she made a big difference.  You have that same ability.

Tips To Create Greater Influence

 Ask for help with something.  You never know whether you have influence until you ask for help. Get better at asking for specific assistance and at phrasing your requests. Benjamin Franklin recommended asking an enemy for a favor. He believed it would turn the tide of how they felt about you.
• Set a tone for good.  No matter what is going on in your company or organization, highlight the positive.  Research shows that when people focus on solutions to problems, they innovate and overcome the paralysis of negativity. They are 20% more creative in developing answers to issues.
 Start the day with positive input.  Research done by Michelle Gielan and Shawn Achor uncovered that just 3 minutes of negative news in the morning ups the odds of your having a bad day by 27%! Give your team, your employees and co-workers good news in the morning and set their tone for success.
• Start each conversation with something positive. This is especially effective with doubters and naysayers.  Ask them what good things are happening in their lives. It changes their thinking,
 
• Champion others.  Support their causes and initiatives. Give credit where it's due.  Encourage others.  You never know the impact you will have.
• Teach people how to think. Brendon Burchard, in his new book, High Performance Habits, suggests you influence through questions like "What do you think about...?"  "What would happen if we tried...?" "How should we approach?" "What ideas do you have about..?"  Get others thinking and contributing.  Listen to their feedback and don't shut them down.  Thank them and consider what they have said.
 Challenge others to grow. Whether it's your employees, family members or friends, ask them what their next steps are, how they can get better at what they're doing, how they can treat others better, how they can improve.
• Be a good role model.  Think about those who have been role models for you.  How can you be a role model for others?  What can you do differently? How can you live at a higher standard of excellence and add value to others?
Influence is progressive and cumulative. By believing in others, sharing a positive perspective, encouraging them and yourself to be better people, you  influence more than you can imagine.  Demonstrate excellence and others will emulate you.  Learn from others and share your wisdom.  Champion others and add value to their lives. You will absolutely have an impact.
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Bounce Back from Trauma

Hurricane Irene brought trauma to many in Florida Sadly, in today's world, trauma is more common than ever.  Shootings at schools, hurricanes, tornadoes, fires, car accidents, violent attacks, war, sudden loss- all of these create trauma and deep emotional stress.  All human beings are emotional creatures with deep-seated feelings, whether we acknowledge them or not.  Trauma can manifest in many ways and PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) can show up years, even decades later.

Something recently triggered my feelings of PTSD from my childhood and it really threw me out of balance.  I am normally a confident, happy and expansive person, but this plunged me back into feelings of powerlessness and despair.  It took me a few hours, but here are some of the tools I used to bounce back.

How to Bounce Back from Trauma

1. Don't try to function as usual.  I cancelled my afternoon appointments and knew
I needed to take care of myself.

2. Acknowledge your pain to someone you can trust.  Explain your feelings and
ask for their help and support.  Close friends, therapists or counselors can all help.  If
they know you well, they know what will help- whether it's a hug, quietly listening to
you or just comforting.

3. Do something physical. I went for a bike ride.  You may want to work out, pound a
punching bag, or go for a run to release the trauma.

4. Ask for spiritual assistance.  Meditate, pray, be mindful. Walk in nature and take in the beauty. Be very gentle with yourself. Trauma is painful.

5. Take a nap.  This one of the most powerful ways to release trauma.  For me, everything is always better when I wake up.

6. Be ruthlessly impeccable about what you allow into your consciousness.  Later that evening, I turned on one of my favorite tv shows and for some reason, it featured something horribly violent.  I immediately turned off the tv and read an uplifting book. Don't compound trauma with more upset. Fill your mind with positivity.

7. Make a list of what you are grateful for.  When you focus on your blessings rather than the trauma, you see how good your life really is and that the trauma is over.

8. Do something you love with people you enjoy.  I was blessed to attend a women's networking group the next day with terrific people where I could be of service and connect with others. They lifted me just by their presence.  I felt whole and exhilarated.

All of us experience trauma at some time in our lives. Hopefully, we get therapeutic support at the time of the trauma.  But it can still show up years later.   Find techniques that support your health and well-being and allow the best of you to come forward.

Love to hear what your favorite techniques are for bouncing back.  Write me at orders@firedupnow.com.
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5 Out of the Box Ways to Cut Your Stress!

Dramatically Cut Your Stress !

Yesterday was National Stress Awareness Day  in the United States. ( It probably has something to do with taxes being due.) And April is Stress Awareness month.  There's no better time to tackle stress, which is still rampant.  Over $300 billion is lost annually in American business due to stress, in terms of poor productivity, absences and illness.  Over 80% of all doctors' visits are due to stress.  So what can you do to cut your stress?

5 Out of the Box Ways to Reduce Stress

flowers cut stress1. Flowers in the workplace benefit everyone! Women who receive flowers unexpectedly are happier, even 3days later. Women with flowers have less anxiety and and are more innovative at work, whether the flowers were sent to them or not! (Health.com)

2.  Listening to music 1 hour a day a week reduced symptoms of depression by 25%. Music, especially classical music, can cut stress dramatically. Anxious about an upcoming meeting or project? Listening to Pachelbel's famous Canon in D helps avoid anxiety and lowers heart rate and blood pressure. Music can also elevate mood, improve immune system function, reduce fatigue and improve self-acceptance in people. (Journal of Advanced Nursing study)

3. Screaming kids in the car? Vanilla oil soothes restless children. It has a positive impact on the limbic center of the brain, which controls emotion, according to Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. A few drops on the wrists of a child can transform a cranky, whiny child into one who is happy and laughing. Try this on your next road tri .

4.  Eat walnuts to cut your stress and treat depression. Harvard Science Review published a study citing that walnuts are powerful antidepressants!  Pistachio nuts cut inflammation, lower cholesterol levels, and improve your body’s response to stress. Just 1.5 ounces of pistachios provides a boost of energy and can slow the absorption of carbohydrates when eaten together.

5. Soak your legs to cut your stress and sleep better. A study from the Journal of Physiological Anthropology found that women who soaked their legs up to their knees in hot water for 30 minutes slept better than those who did neither. No time for a bath? Try running warm water on your wrists.

"Stress spelled backwards is desserts." Loretta Laroche

Yes, we live in a stressful world.  But there are dozens of small things you can do today to cut your stress and the stress of others. Try these and let me know how they work for you.

Snowden

 

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Become Your Best Self

Lincoln had a tremendous capacity for personal growth - more than any other American President.  Henry Louis Gates

Two friends helping towards personal growthAre You Who You Want to Be? The Personal Growth Opportunity

If you died tomorrow, what regrets would you have?  Were you the person you wanted to be for your spouse, your friends, your children, your co-workers,

and your employees?  There's always time to change and for personal growth, and nothing works better than the present to start.

How to Develop Yourself

Accept and Forgive I learned the hard way many years ago that righteous indignation against people who have wronged you will only hurt you. It certainly backfired for me.  Once I learned to accept what had happened, forgive myself and forgive others, I experienced a freedom I had never known.  Your don't forgive for the other person, you forgive for yourself. Try it.

Stop Faking  So many of us have been plagued by the fraud syndrome, where we tried to be someone we weren't. Have you ever spent time with someone, only to discover they were nothing like who you thought they were?  Many people put up a facade, but it always falls away at some point and the real person shows up.  Why waste all that time and energy? ? Just be yourself. Always.

• Work on Your Health - That means every aspect of your health, emotional, mental, physical, spiritual.  Develop yourself.  I have found that exercising nearly every day has made a huge difference in my emotional well-being. Meditation and prayer are important aspects of my life.  I continue to take courses on a variety of subjects to be learn and grow.  You can do the same.

Demonstrate Integrity  Let your word be your bond.  When you make agreements or commitments to others, keep them.  Do the same with yourself. Be honest in your interactions and demand that of those close to you.

All you need to do is look at Lance  Armstrong to know how destructive  deception can be. Only through open, integral communication can real connections grow and develop.

I believe in you.  You are already terrific. Now take your personal growth to the next level.

Snowden

A few blog posts you may find of interest:

Are You an Authentic Leader?
Who are You Blaming?
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How to Release a Bad Mood

 Do You Know How to Release a Bad Mood?

There are over 7 billion people on earth and you're going to let 1 person ruin your day?

Yes, I am a motivational speaker and people see me as a positive, enthusiastic individual.  But I am also human and yes, I do have bad moods.

release a bad moodNot too long ago, I woke up groggy, had a small argument with my husband, which is very rare, tried to go work out but found the equipment all in use (3rd time this week,) learned someone had broken an agreement which impacts our taxes, and so I was angry and frustrated.  ARRGGHH**!!!

But I remembered hearing Christopher Reeves speak after his accident.  He said that although everything in his life was out of his control, the one thing he could control was his attitude, the way he treated his caregivers. Powerful.

 

5 Ways to Get Out of a Bad Mood 

• Get physical in a good way So I couldn't work out at the gym.  I came home, jumped on my rebounder, turned on an exercise show on cable, did my lunges, and pushups and felt better. Exercise is a GREAT way to release upset and stress.

 Write it all down and burn it. I spent about 10-15 minutes writing all my frustrations down, free flowing without censoring anything, writing everything that came into my head.  Then I burned it! AHHH- release!

• Call a Friend I called a girlfriend and vented.  She is a wonderful support system and we do this for each other.  Sharing upset often releases it.

• Find Good Things to Look Forward To. I did some research on upcoming jazz shows, places to go ballroom dancing and comedy clubs. Laughter is a great healing agent.

•Meditate I'm a huge believer in meditation, and I know from my research how much it decreases stress. If you don't know how, try deep breathing with your eyes closed and focusing on a beautiful scene in nature.

I'm much better now, thanks to these tools in my toolkit. Let me know what works for you.  Have a great weekend.

Snowden

A few blog posts you may find of interest:

Anger into Action
Clean Up Your Emotional Junk
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Are Your People Rockstars or Superstars?

Radical Candor - Managing for a positive employee attitude

Managing to create positive employee attitudes

In her wonderful book Radical Candor, Kim Scott tells a story about building teams at Apple. As she was developing her people, Kim focused on those most likely to be promoted. A leader at Apple told her all teams need stability as well as growth to succeed.  Nothing works if everyone is trying to get promoted. The leader referred to the excellent positive employees she had who were on a more gradual, steady growth track as "rock stars" because they were stable like the Rock of Gibraltar.  These people loved their work and were happy with what they did. In contrast, those positive employees who were upwardly mobile, fast tracking, were called "superstars."  So everyone ended up being valued for their traits and was a star of sorts.

Cultivating a Team of All Star Positive Employees

Acknowledge specific achievements of rock stars as well as superstars.  In most companies, it's the superstars who get all the glory.  Even out the balance and give very specific public praise to both groups of positive employees.

Don't focus on promotions.  Focus on achievements and when someone does get promoted, be clear whether their job is changing and what the new responsibilities are.

Be transparent about your mistakes. Encourage others to be open about theirs.  It's much easier to fix a problem early on than later.

Spend 1-1 time with each employee and find out what their dreams, life experiences, and previous jobs have been.  You can learn a great deal.  Ask this key question: "What skills or talents do you have that are not being currently used here?

Give them autonomy with guidance. All humans crave autonomy.

Truly listen to your people.

Keep your agreements.  Be a walking example of integrity.

Don't ask for input unless you really want it.  Never accept the first answer- keep digging and you'll come up with gold.

Your people are the key to success in any organization.  Honor them for who they are and encourage them.  They will reward you with excellent work and great ideas.

"A workplace filled and driven by employees with positive attitudes vibrates continually to the tune of service excellence and passionate team success." Ty Howard

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3 Out of the Box Ways to Boost Productivity

How's Your Productivity Right Now?

Would you like to get more done and generate excellent results?  Here are 3 ways to boost your productivity that you may not have considered.

  1.  The High Performance Research Group found after surveying millions that checking your email within the first hour you awake reduces your productivity by 30%.   Focus on your own priorities first thing. Family connections, spiritual connections, physical exercise and setting your own agenda for the day are paramount.  "Your inbox is an organization system of other peoples' agendas."  Brendon Burchard

Fire up your productivity2.  If you've heard me speak, you know I always recommend deep breathing as a  stress reliever and a way to get more oxygen into your body.  Most of us breathe shallowly and are not providing the fuel we need to get things done.  Brendon suggests you couple your deep breathing with movement.  So bounce while deep breathing 10 times several times a day- this gets your lymph glands flowing and deepens your oxygen intake- all of which helps you be more clear-minded.

3. Visualize your day as super-successful.  When you awaken, picture every person, meeting, and activity you plan that day.  Visualize that each connection as productive and meaningful, with positive outcomes for all concerned. See yourself as happy, energized and fulfilled.  Send positive energy to everyone you plan to connect with.  And then watch the outcomes.  This is powerful!

“Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.” Paul J. Meyer

Women and Overwhelm

Most of you know I am writing my 7th book. This one is on women and overwhelm and you can help. Your story may even be featured in the book. Just complete this survey (women only please)  that takes less than 5 minutes. And after completed, you can download  for free the report  "The Top 10 Unusual Stress Relievers”
Here’s the link : https://www.firedupnow.com/women-survey/ If you have any problems accessing the survey, go here: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/women-survey

 

You can be part of this new book designed to empower women everywhere and free them from the bondage of overwhelm!  And if you complete the survey and download the report, you could be entered to win a free coaching session with me- a $300 value!   Thanks so much for your help!

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