You Can’t Enjoy One without the Other Lots of people have been hurt by the recession, and many people are scrambling to get more money, pay off debt and be financially secure. I know what that fear and anxiety can be like, because I lived through it. Not long ago, my husband was underemployed…
Study Shows Accountability and Written Goals are the Key Many people use the new year to kick off resolutions, but the truth is, only 1/8 of people actually follow through, according to Darren Hardy. Resolutions typically don’t work because: • lack of support and belief in your resolutions • lack of a realistic action plan…
Music Can Also Fire You Up! A 2006 Journal of Advanced Nursing study showed that listening to music one hour a day for a week reduced symptoms of depression by 25%. Music, especially classical music, can also serve as a powerful stress-relief tool. Listening to Pachelbel’s famous Canon in D major while preparing to speak…
Success is Just Around the Corner What do Nelson Mandela and Winston Churchill have in common? Mostly an incredible spirit and determination. Mandela was incarcerated for 27 years, and became president of the African National Congress in South Africa in 1991. During that time, he was sorely tested as loved ones were killed, isolation haunted him…
And Actively Listen to the Answers At work, one of the best ways to improve your relationships with your colleagues, superiors and direct reports is to ask meaningful open-ended questions and then sit back and listen- actively. In an earlier blog post, I described active listening as the state where you focus completely on the other person, don’t speak, have…
Acknowledge Each Other Regularly Taking the time to thank your loved ones for their small acts of kindness goes a long way. It’s a key to a good marriage, friendship or family. Certainly, one spouse may do most of the cooking and the other take out the garbage, but sharing your appreciation of each other throughout the week can…
Pay Attention to Your Prospect’s Style In Neuro- Linguistic Programming, the concept of matching styles means that if someone converses with you in a quiet, low key manner, you respond in kind, matching vocal tone, physical gestures and body posture. If they sit back with their arms crossed, you do the same. You don’t mimick every gesture, but…
Release Your Anger Before the Holidays With the holidays upon us, it is easy to let family anxiety come between you and your spouse or partner. Emotional “junk” like anger, frustration, petty annoyances, can build up in your relationships when you are not willing to talk about the issues. Fear about seeing family members can intensify the tension.Then…
Legacy is not built in grand gestures. It is shaped quietly in daily character, decisions, and the way we show up for others. We rarely know which moments will matter most — until they are gone. Two Lives That Shaped Mine I returned home from a recent trip to the news of two profound losses….
What You Think About Does Make a Big Difference In his new book, Social Intelligence, Daniel Goleman writes about recent brain research: “One person’s inner state affects and drives the other person….We actually catch each other’s emotions like a cold.” The moresignificant the relationship is, the greater the impact on the other person. Our thoughts have tremendous power. The ramifications of this…