Are You A Control Freak? Like Most of Us…

man listening intentlyHuman beings are master control freaks; we all want what we want when we want it the way we want it- myself included.

The problem is that other people have their own timetables and needs, and frequently, they conflict with ours.

An important lesson I continue to learn is to let go of control- on any level.  Any attempts to cajole, manipulate, demand or force your needs on others will most likely be met with resistance, and negativity.

Consider this: how do you feel when a parent or relative demands that you visit them or forbids you to do something? What’s it feel like when your boss tells you no or blocks your vacation time or orders you to do something?

Like most people, you probably bristle and want to rebel.  The same is true of your employees,  co-workers and loved ones.

The solution: let go of control.

Businessmen HandshakeRelease expectations and demands on others.  If you need something, make a request, ask them if they would be willing to do such and such at a time that works for them, and then give them complete space to say yes or no.

If they say no, accept it and back off.  If it is a work situation, find another way to enroll their participation.

No one wants to be controlled. People want to be loved, appreciated and respected.

Letting go of control and demands will improve your relationships at work and at home.


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