How Often Do You Unknowingly Sabotage Yourself with An Upper Limit?
All of us have internal upper limits -comfort zones built in from our childhood programming or life experiences that put a certain limit on how much joy, love, and success we have. And when we expand beyond our comfort zones and begin to experience more, what often happens is that we sabotage ourselves. We get sick, we make mistakes, we miss critical appointments. And then we miss that wonderful opportunity to go to the next level. In his book, The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks addresses this very issue with great clarity.
Why Do We Sabotage Ourselves and Put An Upper Limit on Love and Success?
According to Hendricks, there are four main barriers which show up in our upper limits. These are usually subconscious belief systems or things we say to ourselves that kick up when we are moving upward and growing with our talents and gifts.
- Feeling Fundamentally Flawed or Bad
- I Might End Up Alone or Be Disloyal to My Family
- Success and Abundance Might Be a Bigger Burden
- I Might Outshine________( often a sibling or spouse
So we sabotage our success with worry, criticism, blame, deflecting, arguing, getting sick or injured,lying, etc. All of these make us feel upset or bad about ourselves and quick burst the bubble of expansion and excitement.
The good news is you can learn to stop those destructive behaviors, expand beyond your upper limits and start embracing more love, abundance, success and happiness. I highly recommend you read the book and step into a greater vision of what your life can be. Hendricks talks about living in your Zone of Genius, and allow yourself to feel good all the time and have everything go smoothly in your life all the time. It is possible. Each of us has an incredible reservoir of wisdom, talent and resilience, which enable us to do much more than we think we can.
One thing you can do right now is observe yourself. Let's say you catch yourself worrying.
• As soon as you notice it, focus on something pleasant, like a scene in nature or something you feel good about.
• Wonder to yourself, "What positive new thing is trying to come to me now?"
• Allow yourself to feel good, expansive and open.
• Then let it all go and some time later, a new positive idea will present itself.
So much of our success requires mindfulness. The more we pay attention to our thoughts, the more we can create greater love, success, joy and abundance.