Don't Deny Others the Chance to Assist
Recently, I heard from a friend in the hospital who is critically ill. She had been there for 5 days and was calling to let me know. I was so grateful to know what was going on, to be able to pray for her and check on her. I only wish she had let me know sooner. Another dear friend recently learned he has cancer, but reached out to me weeks after the diagnosis. Those are weeks I could have been there for him, helping him sort through solutions, fear and pain.
Most of us have a tendency to put others first, and to not ask for help. And that's a mistake. Martyring ourselves by saying we don't want to bother others or trouble them denies us the gifts of love and support. We also deserve help, especially in difficult times.
Some people prefer to go off and isolate themselves while they figure things out,
and I respect that. However, isolation can lead to depression and negative thinking, at a time when loved ones could provide compassion and understanding. Scientists have shown that reaching out to other people during a stressful event is an effective way to improve your outlook. So your perspective could improve dramatically.
You never know- you might get some great solutions to problems you are having, connecting you with valuable resources you never knew existed. Share your life, share with your loved ones, and allow yourself to be supported. You are worthy of it.
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