It’s Not about YOU!

http://www.dreamstime.com/stock-images-business-woman-cubicle-overworked-stressed-image5934154Other People's Behavior is ALWAYS about Them!

I  recently had lunch with two great women who have achieved substantial success in life and business.  However, like so many people, they were taking way too much responsibility for others.  As I speak around the country about burn-out, I see this trend over and over.

You are NOT responsible for the actions of others.
 If someone comes into work in a bad mood, it's not your fault.  Nor do you have to fix it.  Women in particular are great "fixers."  Stop.  Focus your energy and attention on being the best you can be, and let go of worrying about the behavior of others. You can't control them anyway, and you certainly cannot change them.  Let every individual make their own choices.

How to Stay Clear of Over-Responsibility

• Don't Take it Personally  If someone is rude, short-tempered or curt with you, recognize it's about them.  They may have been in a fight or lost a loved one or been cut off in traffic. It's not about YOU.

 Take a Good Look at Your Schedule  How much of it is taking on others' tasks and responsibilities?  Have you over-committed?  Are you doing the work others should be doing?  Stop, renegotiate those commitments, and don't take on anything that isn't yours.

• Lighten Up  Life is so hard if you continually worry about others' opinions and problems. Yes, it is appropriate to give back to the community and do service work.  But not at the expense of your health and well-being. Focus first on your life, your needs and your issues, and allow yourself to relax and have joy, freedom and peace of mind.

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Your Life is a Choice

Choose Wisely

 
Jack WhitingLRNot long ago, we celebrated my father-in- law's 80th birthday in Boston.  A successful businessman who's mostly retired, he's a vital, vibrant man who has chosen to live life on his terms.  He plays tennis several times a week, square dances regularly and participates fully in the lives of his children and grandchildren. He has a keen mind, a loving heart, a positive attitude and is an inspiration to me and so many others. 
 
In contrast, I recently met a woman who has chosen to be miserable.  She focuses on the negative, consistently.  As we discussed families and I shared that my father had passed away a few years ago, she declared vehemently that whatever I had gone through, her experience was 10 times worse.  I wasn't aware that is was a competition. How sad.  My heart went out to her, because she was so attached to her drama and negativity.
 
We can all get caught up in our drama and problems.  But is that truly where you want to put your focus?  What you focus on, you create more of.  I would rather create more joy, success, love and peace.  How about you?
 
“To win or lose,
To love or hate,
To try or quit,
To risk or withdraw,
To accelerate or hesitate,
To dream or stagnate,
To open or close,
To succeed or fail,
To live or die.
Everyone of these starts with a CHOICE.”

Snowden McFall

 

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